Thursday, November 24, 2016

Day before



That is odd. In a café bakery and no wifi but they have ether cords and cables. I almost did not recognize the word when it was said it has been so long since I have heard that word.
I was the first in my family to get a divorce.
The only one to get a college degree.
And I was different than all the rest more so that I was like any of the rest.

Not married
Divorced
Single Parent
Artist
Lifelong non-profit worker
Anti-racist

Fringe walker. That is how I have always thought of myself. Walking along the fringe of it all.  A perspective from the outside looking in, learned when I was young for matters of survival. I have a secret, a big one, to protect the family I must not allow it to escape. To keep it all together for everyone I must be on the alert for signs of trouble, or error, or threats to the balance. I tried. I really tried. The group did not want to stay in a group. All the group members decided to disband except for funerals. Not even weddings brought us together after a while.
Now there is chosen family. I hate that word chosen. I prefer saying family, without the descriptor.
Birthplace family and family for life. I know we will not disband. I know we will be at the important events. In this family I do not need to worry so much.


Saturday, November 5, 2016

bday

Had a birthday last week. 63 ... and I am not happy about it. No.

I know I should be grateful that I live inside...have a job and food and I can travel in my car ...but i am not happy about getting older...no happy

i struggle with it.

but i did gt to be with the women i love most of them no sarah or carmen and that was sad but lorna kate jane zoe rahwa...and me...it was fun fun. i would like to do it again right away.

we got tattoos. the same tattoo. i liked that. greatness for us all.  we designed it together and decided together what it was going to be. the tattoo is thoughtful.